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I just found this forum. I finally have a place to ask for some advice.

My 40 year old wife, “Carol”, blonde, 5′7″, nice figure, happens to work as a nurse. Even though 99% of nurses these days wear pants, she continues to wear scrub dresses with white sheer-to-the-waist pantyhose and clogs because she knows it turns me on.

Her dresses come down to about three inches above her knee and, at my request, she doesn’t wear panties under her hose, unless it is “that time of the month”.

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A few weeks ago, Carol informed me that a male coworker, also a nurse and obviously straight, had been sneaking peeks up her skirt whenever she sat on this particular stool. She said that she couldn’t cross her legs because of how high the seat was and she had given up trying to keep her knees together because most of her other coworkers were women anyway.

She said this guy, “Ed”, probably gets some good looks at her crotch. She didn’t think it was a big deal because Ed saw naked female patients every day. I told her that it was different with men.

Well, at first I was mad, but the more I thought about this guy seeing my wife’s pubic hair through the crotch of her hose, the more excited I got.

I began to masturbate to that image. Plus I got her to tell me about Ed seeing up her dress during sex. (She lets me cut a hole in her pantyhose so she can wear them when we make love.)

Anyway, the story doesn’t end there. Ed evidently is into pantyhose just like I am. (I know, it is a strange coincidence because there probably are not a total of ten of us in this whole city.)

One day about a month ago, when my wife walked into the breakroom, Ed ran over to her and playfully started rubbing his hand up and down Carol’s calf. He was laughing and saying “silky smooth”. My wife thought it was inappropriate, but funny. She pulled her leg away and told him to stop, but she said they were both laughing.

That night Carol told me about Ed feeling her calf through her hose, I pulled her straight into the bedroom and I had the best orgasm of my life. Afterwards, I felt myself getting pissed off at Ed. She said it was no big deal and that he was just goofing around. I, of course, knew what he was doing.

A couple of days later, Ed sat beside my wife in the breakroom. They were the only two people in there. He squeezed her thigh right above her knee. They both laughed and she said she pushed his hand away. He then squeezed her other knee and they both laughed it off. She told me that this time, she got turned on a little.

Again, great sex that night. Carol loved seeing me cum so good. I asked her if she was making this stuff up and she swore she wasn’t.

A couple days after that, it happened again. But this time Ed slid his hand up her thigh under her dress. She said she let him move it all the way up her leg until his little finger was close to her crotch. She grabbed his arm. She said she was laughing, but he had a serious look on his face.

More great sex that night. I asked her why she let him do that. She said that she had a “green light” from me and that it made her wet when Ed put his hand on her thigh. She told me that if it happened again, she was going to let him feel her pussy through her hose.

I told her not to let it go that far, but part of me wants her to let him do it.

Do you guys/gals think Carol is jerking my chain and nothing is really happening? Or do you think that I should encourage her to stop Ed’s advances? Or do you think I should give her the go ahead?
Thanks for a voice of reason.

I am so caught up in this thing now that I can’t separate fantasy from reality.

Carol just told me that the day before Thanksgiving she shared a seat with him at lunch because there weren’t enough chairs. She said that the back of Ed’s hand was gently stroking her thigh during the meal.

She said that their butts were touching on the seat and that his arm rubbed up against her boob several times as the ate.

Carol said that she thinks that people are beginning to talk about them.

As much as it pains me, I’m going to tell her to cut the whole thing off. (After we have sex tonight.)

I’ve got some pictures of her in her white pantyhose scrubs dress that I will try to figure out how to post on the other board. She would absolutely kill me if I posted the ones showing upskirts that we use for sex. I won’t post them without her permission.
If you value your relationship with your wife, this needs to stop. I think it’s a hot fantasy and sometimes play out a similar senario in my head when my wife and I have sex, but I’ve never told her that this type of thing turns me on. I just keep it to myself. Secondly, you HAVE TO STOP SENDING HER MIXED SIGNALS. If you want it to stop, put your foot down and demand that it stops or she risks losing you. If you continue to get aroused when the topic comes up and then head to the bedroom and have great sex, she will probably feel like you are telling her it’s okay. Be careful what you ask for!!!
We have been married for 17 years. We have two kids. As far as I know, neither of us has cheated.

(I have had a few lap dances since we’ve been married, but they don’t count.)

Thanks for the advice. The big test is the Christmas party. Last year Carol wore a slinky dress and pantyhose with no panties underneath. She danced with four or five guys other than me. Some were slow dances.

During sex tonight, I asked her if she would wear thigh highs and no panties to a New Years’ party at a local hotel. She said that it would depend on how long her dress was.

I am going crazy here, people.

How do ya’ll deal with this fetish? I am serious. I stopped my car in the middle of a bank parking lot recently to watch a businesswoman in a short skirt, black hose, and pumps climb into her Suburban. She saw me looking at her legs “loud and clear”.

I sped off.
how to deal with the fetish wow that a hard one. I never knew someone to beat the fetish i myself just gotten to get away from fetish for while but i always find myself coming back. Well try a way to satify ur fetish that not include ur wife being fondle by a other guy or tell the guy to have a 3some. In short once a hoser always a hoser u can run away from it but it will catch up with u. Again i will like to know how this tuen out for u
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Why wear nothing at all when I can wear Sheek Pantyhose?

Transfer your fantasies away from your wife. If the idea of having a cheating wife excites you, try to get it out of your system with masturbation.

Some couples have managed to get into the swinging lifestyle and enjoy it, but I think there are also a lot of couples who try and fail, to the detriment of the relationship. Any insecurities, jealousies, etc., will very likely cause big problems if you try to actually follow through on the fantasies.

It sounds like you don’t really want other men touching your wife. If that’s the case, do what others said and make it clear to her that you love her too much to share her, and that she has to tell this guy to leave her alone.

If the fooling around at work continues despite you, that’s another problem, and you’ll have to cross that bridge if you come to it.

Make it clear it’s just a fantasy and that taking it too far might end up causing big problems for everyone. Some things are best left as fantasies.
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A couple of things struck me as odd, especially given the topic of this discussion. First of all, why would you want to test your wife? What paramerters are you testing her for? Isn’t that a bit like tempting fate? Good marriages are built on a foundation of trust, and trust itself is in terms of black and white… you either have it or you don’t. There is no gray area here.

Second, why would you ask her to wear thigh highs with no panties to a New Years party? Unless it’s your personal preference, I don’t understand the point? Is it a part of the “test?” Or maybe I’m off base and I’m simply lost and confused. If so, then I apologize.

Now, you asked how you deal with this fetish. You live with it. This fetish has been a part of me for nearly all of my life. The other night, I went down to the strip plaza a few blocks from my house, to get Chinese take-out. In the ice cream parlor a couple of doors down, was a young redheaded woman with an infant in her arms. She wore nude hose, with a white flowered skirt that came to the knees and a peach/beige sweater and maroon heels with the strap across the ankle, like the ones you would see the Rockettes wear dancing across the stage with. She appeared to be in her late teens or early twenties, and she looked hot. I saw her as I entered the Chinese restaurant, got my food and left. On the way back to my car, I couldn’t help but stare at her as she stood in the open doorway of the ice cream parlor. She seemed to be waiting for someone. She knew I was watching her as I went to my car. I didn’t approach her, I didn’t talk to her. As I got into my car her friends arrived. So I left, filing the vision of her in my memory banks.

My wife knows about my feelings regarding hose. She doesn’t share the feeling, but she caters to my needs when we have sex. She knows I look at women wearing nylons. She also knows that I don’t touch.

Wayasay, I guess the question you have to ask yourself is, “What is it that I’m expecting of my wife? Do I expect her to remain faithful? Or do I expect her to be unfaithful?” Whatever answer you expect to find, be careful. There’s an old saying… be careful what you wish for… you just might get it. Meaning, if you go looking for something… chances are you just might find it.

I’m not trying to add to your stress level. If I have, I apologize. I’m just an unbiased observer. My advice would be to talk to her and express your feelings. I don’t know if you already have, but keeping the lines of communication open with her helps eleviate any misunderstandings between you and her. I sincerely hope that she continues to remain committed to you and that everything works out for you.

Sincerely,

Storm
If your wife’s story about her, her pantyhose and Ed are true, then it seems a larger problem is looming in the background. Her stories are getting you off and she is getting wet when Ed touches her pantyhosed leg. With the laughing going on and the hands getting higher up, it seems like this thing may already have gone too far.
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Not trying to be a wiseguy, but it sounds to me like it’s time to introduce Ed to your brass knuckles. Break a few of his fingers, too, and let him know those fingers had better not touch your wife again.

This method actually worked for me many years ago when my wife and I were dating, when her ex-husband wouldn’t stop harassing her. (She didn’t want him around at all. She had gotten restraining orders on him, but when those didn’t work…)

But, hey, I don’t want to be one who advocates violence. Not me.
I am pleasantly surprised at the benevolence of you folks’ responses.

My experience on some other boards (not hose, but general sex) has often been ugly.

The poster who pointed out my use of the word “test” really woke me up. Am I mixing my pantyhose fetish with a desire for my wife to have sex with another man?

I am so lucky that my wife is really emotionally “tough” and frank. I can imagine many women divorcing guys who reveal the things I say to her.

She has known about my pantyhose fetish since before we were married. In fact, many times we have BOTH worn hose during sex. She even has let me wear her panties during sex before. It doesn’t bother her.

Well, the good news is that she said that she would wear a slinky dress, high heels, and the sexiest hose she can find if I treat her to an expensive New Year’s dance.

In the meantime, she told me that she would tell “Ed” to back off. (She said that today at work he pulled her clog off and grabbed her foot.)

For those who are interested, I’ll keep you updated. And I am still working on those photos.
Well, how would she feel if you had a girlfriend on the side?

I mean if worse comes to worst, maybe have an open relationship for a while.

One concern would be - what if she fucked around with this “Ed” and got pregnant? Maybe at her age it is not likely.

Boy this is a rough one.
I completely identify with your initial post for this is a battle that continues to wage within me as well and has since my first nylon wearing girlfriend in high school over 35 years ago. That relationship ended in an emotional disaster while in college over acting out this exact same fantasy. And I’ll tell you — the reality is no where as exciting as the fantasy!

I’m in my second and hopefully last marriage now and I continue with this fantasy during sex but luckily my wife would NEVER allow it to happen in real life, especially given her knowledge of what happened in my past.

What I find so incredibly curious though is WHY this particular fetish is found so frequently among our kind. It’s called a cuckold fetish and I can tell you there are a lot of practitioners or wannabes out here in cyberland. Anyone have any idea why the cuckold fetish so frequently accompanies a PH or nylon fetish?

I have to agree though with the vast majority of other posters here that playing this fantasy out is like playing with fire while carrying a bucket of gasoline! It’s a disaster waiting to happen.

The irony is that we all spend our lives seeking out a loving and faithful wife who will indulge our nylon fetish only to take it to the point of wanting to share her with another man! How crazy is that? Yet in a way, isn’t that the primary reason a vast number of us are even here? We want to share pics of our PH wearing wives with other men and we like the fact that other fellow fetishists sexually covet our wives! Go figure!
I think you have an active fantasy mode mind. Neat story but not real. Unless you are a swinger and your wife is a slut. I would not appreciate my woman being touched that way by a man at her work. In fact I really think that man might have a major fall down accident in the parking lot of her work later , hehehehe. Im sure most sane men would feel the same way. But like I Said great fantasy story….
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She could be just jerking my chain because she knows it gets me off, but there are so many details. And she is generally not a good story teller or role player in bed.

And I have seen this guy at parties and stuff and he is sort of a goof-off. I have seen him be inappropriate on the dance floor.

I tend to believe that this is happening to my wife and that she is digging it.

Anyway, this cuckold thing has been in the back of my mind for a few years, but I never considered it really happening until this thing came up. I’ve been to some “hotwife” sites and the first advice is “don’t do it with a friend or co-worker”.

She wore pants to work yesterday. I think she is going to let this thing stop before she either gets fired or ruins our marriage. The thought of another man’s hand sliding up and down her pantyhosed thigh underneath her dress just drives me wild, though.
Can I just say that I’ve known two couples that have been down this road, not the pantyhose thing but seeing another man with their wives. Both cases ended in heartbreak and split families. I believe that women, whilst not wanting to be married to a green eyed monster, do want to feel desired and protected. If you persist in talking about this fantasy with her she may well become insecure about your feeling for her and take it further to try and please you, ultimately though I believe that she will lose respect for you. From the tone of your posts I don’t think you want to lose your wife. Good luck anyway.

One more thing, for the posters that have advocated violence against this guy, while I can understand that reaction, let@s not forget that he has been given the green light by this lady from day one. He could be a hoselover just like us and given the scarcity of oppurtunities these days, how many of us would turn it away?
I don’t advocate violence. I would never be bold or crass enough to touch a female without her permission. I would stare, but not touch.

This guy tried something under the guise of kidding around and my wife passively let it progress. I am 100% sure that when she lays down the law, he will stop.

I just think it is strange that she works with another hose lover, unless the hose thing is just a prelude to what he REALLY wants. This might be the case.

Anyway, thanks for all the advice. Most of you seem like decent people. Heck, I am a very nice guy other than having this fetish.

My love for pantyhose is perfectly fine as long as it stays in my bedroom and wifey enjoys it, too.

What troubles me is that I can be rude and borderline harrassing to women in public by gawking at their legs and feet. (And trying to see up their skirts).

For example. The other day I went into Chick-Filet because the drive-through line was too long. I was going to just get my food and leave. But I spotted two business women. One of them had on a short skirt, taupe hose, and beige pumps.

This pretty lady was sitting with her legs crossed on the corner of the booth seat. I changed my plans to just leave and sat down at a table straight across from where she was sitting so I could stare at her legs and hopefully catch a crotch shot.

My heart was racing. I could hardly eat. After about 10 minutes, she crossed her legs the other way and I got a brief shot of what I thought was bush. I felt myself getting a little dizzy.

I was late for work, but I didn’t care. I waited another 15 minutes or so for her to leave. Our eyes met a couple of times and she knew that I was enjoying the show. When she finally left, she uncrossed her legs and spread them to get out of the booth. I guess she either didn’t care or was flashing me.

Anyway, she had white panties on underneath her hose. My head was spinning. I have masturbated to that image several times.

Do any of you folks do things like that?

Oh, yeah, I have done similar things just to get a glimpse/gaze at a hottie in hose. I try hard not to be obvious, and try not to creep the woman out, but I figure I’m pretty sly about stealing glances since I’ve been doing it so long!

When grocery shopping, etc, I’ll casually follow a skirt for an aisle or two, and may come back around to get a second look later.

Smae thing in a restaurant…if a woman in hose is sitting near me, I find I’m not as hungry as I thought! The old blood pressure rises and eating food ain’t the first thing on my mind anymore!
I am sure glad I found this place. It is good to know that I have company.

Even though being “discreet” is what most of you advise, I find that the experience is more exciting if the woman knows that I am looking.

I don’t want to give us a bad name, but there is just such a headrush I get when she first notices me staring at her legs.
Do you think he does this to any other co-workers? How old do you


think he is..if he’s younger maybe he feels he can get any with this

because she’s in her 40s and she would be too ashamed to report

this (?) or height if he’s taller maybe he feels like he can intimidate her

if she’s a small lady. I had a married co-worker whose legs I used to feel up pretty constantly until one day I directly propositioned her and she

asked that I please not touch her..
Well, she did it.

Carol and I went out last night. She wore pumps, off-black hose (no panties), a short skirt, and cute top.

We met up with her co-workers, including Ed.

Long story short, at 2:00AM it was just the three of us at the bar. We went back to Ed’s place.

I am too drunk/upset to tell anymore details right now. I will fill you guys in tomorrow, for the ones who care.
Ed said that he had some weed. So we went back to his place.

After we got high, I said “Carol and Ed would make a cute couple, too bad she is mine.” I said, “go sit beside him on the couch so I can see how you two would look together.”

She went and sat beside him. He immediately put his hand on her knee and looked at me. I sort of winked, not really winked, but he could tell that I didn’t care.

I said, “Don’t you love women in silky pantyhose”. Ed said, “I love Carol in HER pantyhose.” Carol took his hand and pushed it up and down her pantyhosed thigh real quickly. They both were laughing. I said, “Hey, I’m enjoying the show now”.

I literally thought my heart was going to jump out of my chest. Plus I had a sick feeling in the pit of my stomach like we were about to do something that my wife and I were going to regret.

I need to get to work, but I’ll finish telling you guys/gals who give a shit about this thing later today.
OK, believe it if you want or don’t click on the thread anymore.

This guy put his arm around my wife and looked like he was getting ready to kiss her. She said, “OK, what are we doing here?”. He said something like, “I don’t know, you tell me.”

Carol said that she wanted a foot massage, but she needed to smoke another bowl first. So we all got more beers and smoked some weed. That really broke the tension.

Anyway, Carol slid her feet out of her pumps and plopped her legs onto “Ed’s” lap. Her right leg was on his crotch and he grabbed her left calf with one hand and started to rub my wife’s foot with his other hand.

I could see her red toenail polish through her pantyhose as he squeezed her arch and between her toes. She was moaning about how good it felt. After about two or three minutes, he did the other foot. I was extremely turned on. Throbbing erection. Especially when she put her left foot on the floor and her skirt rode all the way up to where I could see her crotch.

After about five more minutes or so, Carol said, “Thanks, that was great. I need another hit off of that pipe.” She went to the kitchen and when she got back, she sat in a chair. That was as far as she was going to let it go.

My memory is a little hazy, but the look on Ed’s face was painful. I don’t think he has a pantyhose fetish, I just thinks he wants to have sex with my wife. He thought he was going to get to do it, but I’m glad Carol stopped it because I was about to snap, I think. Weird emotions.

Anyway, it was about 3:30 AM, and we were too messed up to drive. The kids were with their grandmother, so we just spent the night in his spare bedroom. Carol asked him for a long teeshirt to wear, but he is slightly shorter than her so his shirt barely covered her ass.

Carol and I got into bed. She kept her hose on for me and performed oral on me. Fantastic orgasm. I got her off by sliding my hand down her pantyhose.

Yesterday morning, when we got up, we all had hangovers. Carol was getting ready to put her skirt and blouse back on when foolish me asked her to keep the teeshirt and hose on while we had coffee and something to eat. I had to beg her, but she did it.

For about thirty minutes she walked around the apartment essentially giving Ed and I complete views of her legs. She flashed her butt and crotch over and over because there was no way not to. I was so excited and Ed definately had a bulge in his pants.

Anyway, she got dressed. Ed said he had a great time and we should do it again sometime. Carol apologized for getting so drunk and “wild”. Then we left.

I can’t stop worrying about what happened. I am scared that she is going to cheat on me with Ed. She is at work with him right now, but she wore pants today, thank God.

I told her yesterday that we needed to keep our fantasy life separate from reality and that there was a good chance that I would have gone berserk if he had started kissing her.

its good that you told her straight up what youre not comfortable with. i hope everything goes well with you. your wife loves you, so i doubt that she’ll do anything more to jeopardize that. just dont let your emotions get the best of you and trust her cuz if your paranoid, your just gonna make shit worse.
You folks give good advice.

I am still so sick about “promoting” this guy feeling up my wife.

I HATE him now. She tells me that I am overreacting and that she isn’t attracted to him. She said that she just considers him to be a “goof-ball”.

She wore pants to work again today. She told me that he hasn’t messed with her. Hopefully it is over.

Sorry. No more stories.

But the message came through loud and clear.
Wayasay,

:: shakes head :: You seem like a nice guy, but I have to say honestly, you’re an idiot. What were you thinking?! Is it him you hate or yourself for letting it get that far? Why on earth would you put youself and your wife in that position by flaunting your wife before him? Weed or not, fantasy or not… it was a bad idea, and I firmly believe you are going to regret it, one way or another. You tempt fate… fate always wins.
I don’t know what possessed me. I have a weird “wife-sharing” fantasy that is separate from my hose fetish.

But I learned that when the shit actually hits the fan, my “protective” instincts kick in.

That said, “Carol” and I are going to a New Year’s Eve party at a hotel in a nearby city. And we are already planning her wardrobe.

I mentioned this earlier. I want to see her slowdance with a stranger.
I have to agree that you are an idiot. First of all, I am not sure how much of this story I believe, but that is not the issue. If this story is true, you basically get lucky last weekend that your stoned wife puts a stop to anything else that might have happened between her and ED, which you were instigating. (I don’t know to many men that would tell there wife that her and some other guy would look good together, drunk, stoned, high or whatever).

Then as pissed as you are, rather than call a cab and get the hell out of there after he has felt your wife up, you spend the night at his house. The next morning you wake up and beg your wife to walk around his apartment in her pantyhose and his short t-shirt. (What the F are you thinking?)

Now you are planning with your wife that she wears a sexy outfit for new years and you would like her to dance with a stranger. Well I will tell you what…..If you are this stupid, tell me where you are going for New Years. I would like to be the stranger that your wife dances with. I will bring the weed and provide plenty of alcohol and bring you back to my place. Once there, I will massage her pantyhose covered legs and feet, suck on her pantyhose covered toes, rip a hole in pantyhose covered pussy, and give her one hell of a ride. When I finally get through with her, her and I will be taking off togeher leaving you far behind.

Now, here’s an idea…..Plan a New Years Evening out just the two of you. You complement her, and you touch and keep your hands all over her. Don’t push her to some stranger who will take her away from you, keep her by your side showing her off and making sure that everyone knows she is with you. Pay attention to her. You massage her feet and legs.

Just my two cents
Good advice parho6.

I wasn’t angry until after we got home and I started thinking about what an idiot I was. We rarely smoke pot, but I can’t blame it on that.

She says that work has been awkward this week, but he hasn’t aproached her or mentioned anything. I personally think he knows it went too far and is spooked. He better be.

btw, sex has been great with her describing that night during the act.

Anyway, this is the wrong forum to be discussing this. My pantyhose fetish is one thing, the desire to watch her with another man is another.
I don’t know but they say the PH fetish is kind of a generational thing.

Those of us in our early 30’s may be the last ones to have it. Especially after their popularity decline about 1990.

But wife sharing? Is this something that was a popular fetish years ago? Maybe something that was popular in the 70’s and before? For any reason you can think of, sharing my wife is not a fantasy. I just don’t think of it.

Maybe you could have one of these other fetishes - Glutton for punishment, wanting to watch other people have sex, … who knows?

Carefully consider all possibilities before acting on anything.

Well, you have now heard the warnings from other members of what this could do to your relationship, the disaster, but if you really, really need to do this, then go for it. BUT - make sure the other guy is someone you both trust well. Not some chump from work. And keep in mind that this gives you a ticket to fuck around with other women, it is only fair.

It could result in problems? Well, like the other folks here have said…

I’ve let my mrs “get off” with other men and women and so have I.

We have done this with permission from each other.

But it starts there and ends there.

It doesn’t carry on at work for weeks on end.

I don’t share her now, she is all mine.

The idea of seeing her getting screwed is a fantasy turn on but I wouldn’t want it in front of me.
My man, I read though this thread and coming from a guy who loves to see his wife get naughty I would say I am hearing alarms and seeing red lights flashing all over for you.

You have gotten yourself in a bad situation, plain and simple. I do tend to belive you because I know some of the feelings you have explained, to a T.

First, you ALWAYS need to talk about these things before they happen. You cannot just let them happen and then try to deal with what happened after the fact. You HAVE to set up rules. Izzy and I have very clear cut rules and if these rules are at all broken in either of our minds we let each other know.

One of the most clear rules is as you said NO FRIENDS and definately NO CO-WORKERS.

EDIT!! OK, I really need to edit the NO FRIENDS part as not offend anyone (no, no details here peeps)..this is a little gray for us because almost all of our “friends” are way out of town and not people we see very often at all. To be sexually involved with a “friend” you have to be 10000000% (lol) sure you are all on the level about the situation and there has to be a high level of maturity and respec, oddly enough there needs to be much respec between the men. So, the friends can be a bit different based on the friend themselves. For example, a friend you or your spouse see almost on a daily basis, not a very good idea. A friend you may see once or twice a year and talk to on the phone once in a while, all depends on the person. There are a lot of judgement calls here and you both, well all three of you, had better be on the same page at all times! I do absolutely, without a doubt, still stick by the no co-workers rule!!!

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You have put yourself in a distrusting situation now. She spends more time with him now than she probably spends with you, since she works with him. Which is something you have to worry about, which means you now have trust issues you would not have had if you would have set our ground rules right off the bat. Trust issues in a relationship are bad news friend, very bad.

The problem that most people have when they are in an open/swinging relationship is that rules are not followed and emotions get invlolved. Emotional attachment is a big problem. Sex is sex but when emotions get tied in with sex, there can be major problems. I am fine with all t he guys Izzy has slept with because I know there is no emotional attachment, your wife on the other hand may be developing something simply for the fact she spends so much time with this guy.

Before ever getting into anything like this you need to make sure your relationship is stong enough to handle it. You cannot go this route if you are unsure or if you have never talked about it. That being said, pillow talk does not count. We have all said things during pillow talk that if really came true would be quite awkward.

Without making this post too long, you need to deal with this situation, do not fight about it and do not blame her. You gave her the green light. You need to discuss it and explain yourself the absolute best you can, so you are 100% clear in your feelings. Do not hold back because if there are gray areas, you are just looking for trouble. You may even talk to her about the two of you going out and her taking someone back to your a hotel or something (don’t take anyone to your home!!!!!). Someone you or she will never see again though, not people you or she knows. You need to make your intentions clear to anyone she may pick up though, that she gets to play and you are a watcher and there are no strings. DO NOT FORGET SAFE SEX!!!!

Also, there is nothing wrong with getting turned on by the sight your your wife being touched, it happens to a ton of guys, me being one of them. however, just like I cannot explain my pantyhose fetish, I cannot fully explain why I like that either.

CJ
yeah listen to chris. he’s dropping some good advice here. personally i know about the hornyness of smoking pot. the ol’lady and i will blaze one up and we wanna f@#k anything on two legs. hahaha. but seriously keep it with strangers.
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