pantyhose xxx

The bf and I are disscussing getting married and he refuses to allow bare legs at the wedding to which I agree….

How do I put on the invitations, in a polite manner, that chicken legs need not attend?

We plan on having a basket of “oh shit they weren’t kidding hose” near the entrance of wherever we decide to get hitched because no, we’re not kidding.

I’m doing some research here and there but I though I’d ask all you nice folks.

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The only thing that bare feet should be put in are hose!
“Dress: Formal (Gentlemen: suit, tie; Ladies: skirt/dress, hosiery)”

Unless you want to look strange at best, creepy at worst, I don’t think there’s a way to have it explicitly state on your invites that “females MUST wear pantyhose.” The best you can do is the above statement, which should make it clear to your guests that you feel that “formal” for women includes hose. It also slips that statement in there while not discriminating against the gals (men with ties, etc.)

That would be my suggestion. Well, actually, my suggestion would be to concentrate on celebrating your love for one another and enjoying your wedding day, rather than projecting your fiance’s fetish onto the guests at your wedding. Of course we all think a woman looks classier and sexier with hose on…but honestly, what is the point here? I have no doubt that I will be in the minority on this board, but to me this is kind of out there. You’re going to have a basket of hose in case someone doesn’t wear them? I’m sure I’d love being at your wedding, but then again, I’m a hose-obsessed guy, not a woman who is being forced to wear a certain type of garment. Imagine the awkwardness of a woman who, for whatever reason, has not dressed “properly”. She approaches the door with a group of friends/family…and is confronted with a basket full of pantyhose and a sign saying she must wear them. So she has to, in front of God knows how many strangers, grab a pair, go into a bathroom, and put them on, and come out again in front of everyone. I’d love it, the guys here would love it, and apparently your fiance will love it…but what about her?
This isn’t just his idea, it’s also mine as I totally agree.

Our love isn’t the issue, it’s going to be our day so we want it our way, which includes women in hose. Period.

We’ve waited 18 years to be together and I want my wedding to this man to be perfect for us both. We both like the way women look in hose equally…if you catch my drift….and we both want this.

Never thought of putting out an open invite here….it’s something to discuss with the bf….
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The only thing that bare feet should be put in are hose!

Hi peeps.

hmm, a proper saga if there was one..I relish a saga.

I hope you don’t mind me adding my opinion on the situation

IAs you say, there are two camps here - the offend everyone and be damned because its your day camp ,and on the other hand is it realistic to expect the women to all wear their hose?

I would say the former by a pinch. Much as it pains me to see women, who patently don’t like wearing hose, having to wear them - it is your call aswell - and they ain’t gonna suffer like in the camps exactly.


You shouldn’t have to think about how to couch your words to make what you desire, more appealing. This is the same sort of stress that gets created when a domineering mother-in-law who thinks the sun shines out of her little boy’s dinky, starts taking over the planning and the bride is left with her head in her hands wondering if it’ll be her day at all.

I could suggest using a coldroom and and strong fluorescent lights to create the effect that you want, but again, you are going to extraordinary lengths to do what you could anyway.

You must ask yourself though is this a fetish point, a thrill from relating your quandery or merely presentation? for your own peace of mind - once you know what your motivation is, then you can act accordingly. make it different perhaps - there are loads of weddings which take the same form -this could break the mold.

If you are worried about what the families may think now - I would be more worried about what you might do to them in a few years time once the stress of not being yourself builds to mafia point. It’s very difficult to judge someone’s body language when there’s blood spurtng everywhere.

The other thing you could do, is use two ushers and direct the ladies with their partners to one of two doors accordingly - the ones without would by-and-by be lead to a holdng room where they would get hors d’oeuvres (in a reduced form) but then be shown back to their cars to leave.


this would make more sense I think - since you are subtly making them pay for not wearing, despite you having put it on the invitation.

The idea of a basket might work if the vicar was handing them out and they were new pairs (and decent) which may cost you a small fortune especially in hot weather. you could request smart dress no bare legs or stay away, This would work like the shoes off or fuck off policy adopted by many new carpet owners & the sheer boldness of this may sway alot of undecided wearers.

I hope these suggestions give you food for thought.

I must point out that I’m not this bold in real life and it’d be you who would be carrying this out - its easy to give advice from the other end of a cable - but at least you have each other.

Well of course it won’t bring the world to an end. It might bring to an end any respect people have for this couple, though. I can tell you if I went to a wedding and was stopped at the door and told I had to go put a certain item of clothing on, I’d turn around and leave. Maybe some people need to take a step back and realize that a sexual fetish shouldn’t control all aspects of their lives. If this was about wanting the people at this wedding to look “classy”, that’s one thing. Put an item in the invitation that states that formal dress is required. But it seems like this is more about fulfilling a fetish, and to me, that’s kind of sad, if not world-ending.
In real life you could get away with simply putting it on an invitation as

“STRICTLY FORMAL DRESS ONLY”

In cyberspace/not real world invitations you put

“I LIKE PERVING AT TIGHTS- PLEASE WEAR, ALSO CAN I SNIFF SOME TOES AFTER THE DANCING”

Regards
As big a hosiery lover I am. And totally detest the thought of women not wearing ANY kind of hosiery to a formal function,(wedding, graduation, funeral, etc.) I don’t see how this would work, other than causing the loss of friends, which is not worth it if you ask me.

But, if your going to try it, I’d say Formal dress in the invitations would be a start. Maybe it would at least cut down on the amount of flip flops coming through the door!

In this day and age, I just don’t see female in general, especially younger ones running out to buy pantyhose to come to your wedding. And I see even less if you force the issue.

Good luck with this and most important best wishes!
The reality of weddings: As hard as you might try, you cannot control every detail. It doesn’t matter what stipulations you try to attach, or what you write in your invitations. , and if that means no hose, then they won’t be in hose. People bring babies to weddings when the invitations explicitly say no babies. They bring gifts when the couple asks for no gifts. They bring more people along than they’d listed on the RSVP. You can’t win. There always will be a big chunk of people who (maliciously or not) do what they want.

And when that happens, who’s going to enforce your “rule”? You, personally? As the bride and groom, trust me, you’re going to have more important things going on then patrolling your own wedding looking for hose scofflaws and alienating friends and loved ones who came to support you on your big day.

At least I hope so.

Your only consolation is that as the bride, you can require your bridesmaids to wear hose. That’s not unreasonable.

But if you get hung up about what anyone else is wearing, I guarantee you are going to have an awful day.
It’s all about asthetics at this point, hosed legs look better in photos. Fetish not with standing, you must agree with me on this one. All you have to do is look at ONE award show to see the difference. It’s amazing.

I’ve waited 18 years to be with this man and I want the day I truly get to call him my own to be perfect in every way. In reality it won’t be that way, I’m not that lucky.

“Formal attire-Men/boys jackets and ties Women of all ages-dresses or skirts with hosiery please.” seems to be the most common way to express our desires.

There will be some hard headed bitches that won’t wear hose but I’m hoping that those that care about us will give into our request, which is all it is, a request.

I didn’t mean to light such a fire….LOL.
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The only thing that bare feet should be put in are hose!
LA

I think its a fine request and no more odd or imposing then some weddings I have had the displeasure of being at. In fact, I do not think its imposing at all. This is your day and whether you waited 18 months or 18 years, your guests should do their best to do so. I would think 99 out of 100 would anyway, but thats just my opinion.

One suggestion though, because plenty of men go sockless even with a formal jacket etc is to say: “Men/Boys -jacket, tie, socks, dress shoes, Women/girls - dresses/skirts/hosiery, dress shoes”

That way you are being perfectly fair and avoiding uncle bob in his shirt, tie, and beach sandals.

Logan

P.S. Not sure about inviting folks from the board to your wedding unless you knew them well but if you had say a fetish wedding of some sort after the real event, I am quite sure a number of folks would show.
alhanna,

I do agree with you on the pictures, and your suggestion is not to harsh but to the point. I guess you could try it and see what happens, but as the other poster stated people are going to do what they want to do. I hope you both don’t get too upset at female friends who come bare legged, or who don’t show up because of the request. But it is your wedding and your wishes should be honored.

And with that being said, I do have a question and I mean no disrespect. But after re reading this thread I can’t help but wonder if this issue is to indulge the hosiery fetish? Again nothing ill is intended with my comment!

I like this idea and you could put it as if it was a bit humourous, since your stipulating exactly what people should wear down to the last sock - some of the most radical things get pushed through with a bit of humour because you’ve always got it to fall back on and they never know if you’re serious but at least the issue will get raised - imagine all those tongues wagging talking about the dress code - it’d be fun - important to keep things light - that way you can say you did all you could. nice one logan
on your invitations you should list the dress code.

FORMAL DRESS ATTIRE for those who attend.

Women: Full or short length dress/skirts, sheer hosieryand heels

Men: Full tuxedo/suits, dress shoes, bow ties

Girls: Skirts, sheer hosiery (with or without anklet sockies), dress shoes

Boys: Dress Suits, dress shoes,bow ties

In our family all the females wear hosiery on special occassions.