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I am from an Anglo-Saxon background (well, let’s just say white lower-middle-class American). When I was a pre-teen I shared a bedroom with my older brother. We had one of those daybeds wherein the bottom bed pulled outward and then was raised so that both beds were side by side.
When I moved out on my own I always slept by myself.
On a few occasions I have had to share my bed for sleeping space as I do not own a couch. It’s generally a mutually agreeable arrangment.
My question : Have you ever shared your bed with someone with whom you weren’t intimate? How long is the longest you would want to do that?

I´ve been on a language vacation/student travel thing where we lived with host families and I were in that family with another girl from the group. (They decided short term to give 2 students a home) So, the other girl and I had to choose if we´d spent the nights together in the guestroom or one of us there and one of us in the living room. We were both scared of sleeping alone in this open living room so we prefered sleeping in the same bed. We didn´t know us at all (!) at the beginning but we became really good friends! We slept in the same bed for and it was totally good! We also had no problem with continue, but the vacation was over. I guess we became like sisters, we were a happy family back then.
When I was much younger I slept in the same bed with a friend at a sleepover. We were kind of more than just friends though. It was quite a while ago so I don’t remember the details but nothing major ever happened. Just a lot of cuddling.

Last year after a night of drinking, my friend and I crashed at on a buddy’s futon. To be honest we didn’t really didn’t care, we just wanted some place to lay down and sleep. One of the guys jokingly said, "well Ian, there’s nowhere else to sleep so I guess you’ll have to snuggle up with John." There wasn’t any snuggling and I’m glad there wasn’t because it probably would have made our friendship awkward. We’ve both since fallen asleep on a couch together a few times. I hadn’t yet come out to him at that time. Since I’ve come out we’ve laid together on his bed and watched TV and everything was comfortable between us. I’m glad he is still comfortable about having a close friendship without it becoming wierd.

As for sleeping with any future partners in the same bed, I think I’d be fine with it. The one other time I did, he had his back to me so I don’t know what it’d be like to have someone breathing on me. I can totally understand where you’re coming from though if you’re just not able to fall asleep with someone else in your space and I wouldn’t let it ruin a relationship. I’m sure we could cuddle a bit before sleep-time and then head off to my own bed when he wants to sleep. It’s a compromise I’m willing to make but I’d love to actually sleep in the same bed otherwise.

Oh, and my friend named John is not actually named John. I’m sure he or anybody else we know will ever read this but I just don’t like naming other people by name on the Internet even if it is on a first name basis. My name, however, is actually Ian.